Made a blunder? Don't be ashamed
Instead of being ashamed when you make a blunder, maybe it's better to laugh – at least, that's what new research shows. Scientists claim that humor in awkward situations can make you more likable, approachable, and even competent in the eyes of others.
TL;DR
- Laughing at minor, harmless gaffes makes a person seem more likable, authentic, and competent.
- Excessive shame after a small mistake can have the opposite effect, making a person seem insecure or overly concerned with others' opinions.
- Humor in awkward situations signals self-acceptance and an understanding that the mistake is trivial.
- Laughter is only perceived positively when the mistake is harmless; in cases of injury or significant consequences, shame and remorse are expected and viewed more favorably.
- It's important to match your reaction to the seriousness of the moment to be perceived appropriately.
- Overestimating how much others notice or remember our mistakes can be mitigated by remembering that people are generally more focused on themselves.